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Traditionally, wedding vows followed a specific cultural or religious tradition. The wedding vow is both a declaration and a promise that the bride and the groom make to each other during the wedding ceremony. A wedding without vows is an unfamiliar sight although some traditions have ceremonies that replace verbal vows with rituals.

Nowadays, wedding vows are essential in any marriage ceremony and modern wedding ceremonies offer the flexibility of allowing you to write and say your own vows. Not only is it more personal, but it allows you to add an extra touch to the special day. If you decide to write your own personally meaningful wedding vows, then here are a few things to keep in mind.

1. The bride and groom need to both be completely comfortable with doing this. If either have a severe fear of public speaking, you are probably better off using the prescribed vows and lead by the minister.

2. Why do you want to spend the rest of your life with this person? When you write your own vows, you naturally start to think of all the good reasons why you want to be with the person you are going to marry. Write from your feelings and don’t worry too much about being elegant. Meaningful vows are worth more than elegant one’s.

3. Starting is often the hardest part. Most people are afraid of not expressing their . Remember that it’s about expressing your true feelings. Spend some time on this. Never rush it the night before when you won’t be thinking clearly.

4.You can always look at a few of the sample wedding vows online and borrow some ideas or words from each to add to your own unique vows. It’s important to pick only those one’s that really appeal to you because the meaning appeals to you. You can NEVER fake sincerity. You can always take a wedding vow you really like and add your own twist to it.

5. If you want a touch of artistic expression to your vows, try adding a few lines of poetry.

6. You may want to include some of the lyrics from your favorite song. Couple’s often have a song or tune that symbolizes their love for each other, sort of like the song that is danced to during the reception or after the wedding dinner.

7. While you are thinking about what to say in your vows, you may consider your ideal life that you get to share with your soul mate.  When you think about why you want to share your life with your partner and no one else, you can start to get some pretty good ideas. Starting with a list of all the things you like about your partner is always a good start.

8. Share with each other what you have written. You both can bounce back ideas; revive special moments you had with each other. This will help you discover what to include in your vows.

9. Run your wedding vows past the person who will be marring, just to make sure he/she feels comfortable with it. This is more of a kind gesture than an approval. Maybe he/she can inform you about what must be included and maybe even provide a few pointers.

10. Saying your wedding vows during the ceremony can be a nerve wrecking experience. For some it can be a very emotional one. It is very important that you keep your composure and to be well prepared.  It’s okay to stumble a bit, but a bit of practice will give you the confidence to say your wedding vows with meaning.

Remember that you wedding vows need not be elegant to be meaningful. Make sure that it comes from your heart and when you say them you should say them exclusively to your partner. Never forget that the wedding is bout the two of you and not about the people attending. It’s your day. Its your life and your wedding vows are the glue that binds the marriage together.

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